Love is love. It doesn’t take a person of superhuman kindness and specialness to love and care for someone with a disability or mental health issue.
And a mother says it right:
‘We imply that those with disabilities are not equally lovable — that it takes someone “special” to muster up this kind of affection. It seems we reveal our innermost bias;…’
a state of affairs for being loved and valued for being ‘schizophrenic’ and having to hear ‘Oh you must be so and so for being able to handle her’ ‘It must be difficult…you are very supportive of her choices’ ‘You must be something to be able to be in relationship with someone with schizophrenia’…..some of the all too familiar lines I’ve heard before.
Read this article by Mary Evelyn Smith on My son’s disability doesn’t make me a ‘special kind of person’