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On Radical Acceptance (& Not Fixing Your Kid)

Over 10 years in advocacy work especially in schizophrenia I’ve constantly mentioned to other caregivers and practitioners that fixing kids are not the solution. My voice is still getting heard in that department. It’s obvious because I am no caregiver here in context to having schizophrenia myself. This removes the other caregiver roles I do play.

But it’s likely not my battle to tell other parents to stop fixing us because what we say goes across as a defense or an act of rebelling only too often. It takes another caregiver to say it to other caregivers. I really hope they listen this time because there are so many kids around the world getting fixed for no reasons. So many adults who have lost their childhood, youth and adulthood to having been fixed. Where even their recovery is one of being fixed. Their living is one of being fixed.

People need to given space to be just the way they are. The motto we use in The Red Door is JUST BE & LET BE. And quite contrary it isn’t something radical one has to do. It’s quite a natural part of being an Indian which many of us have lost. The cultural balance and imbalances are so unique yet not so.

Where what is radical for one culture is something the other has taken for granted. Just being in itself has its roots to the way of Buddhism or Zen or Taoism. I am only giving these references and not trying to sell a religion. The way we believe and think does influence everything about us and our surroundings including cleansing our dna and cells from unnecessary thoughts as pointed out in the law of expressed emotion.

BE and LEt BE 🙂

Star In Her Eye

There’s a small town in Belgium named Geel (pronounced hale with a throaty, Germanic H). By 1930, a quarter of its residents were mentally ill. If you know about Geel, you know this was not because something lurked in the water or food supply. It was because for 700 years families in Geel accepted mentally ill patients, or “boarders,” to live with them in their own homes. The town got a nickname: “Paradise for the Insane.”

I’ve never been to Geel, but I recently heard about it on NPR’s Invisibilia podcast. In the episode, reporter Lulu Miller interviews Ellen Baxter, a researcher who earned a grant to live in Geel for a year. Prior to this trip, Baxter had faked her way into a mental institution, wanting to find out about the therapeutic practices used. She saw virtually none. What she did see: people watching television, looking out the…

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This entry was posted on July 10, 2016 by in Mental Health, schizophrenia and tagged , , , , , , .
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